Uncertainty

11 Mar 2010

About an hour ago I was bright and chirpy, because as far as I knew we were going to be moving in about 6 weeks. We had an offer on our home last week and had fallen in love with a lovely little flat, but then I received a phone call and it feels like my whole world has come crashing down. I'd had my suspicions about our buyers but everyone else (including the estate agents) told me to stop worrying unnecessarily. Sometimes I'm neurotic and worry too much, but I am a very good judge of character. I just didn't feel comfortable with the people who put the offer on our flat, and it turns out that I was right... They were just messing us around.

At the moment I feel in total limbo. I'd already (foolishly) decided how to organise our furniture, made a list of all the work we would need to do on the new place and had quotes from tradesmen, worked out how many months we would need to save up, chosen the blinds for the kitchen... Never mind. What will be, will be. My mum always tells me that things work out OK in the end. Right now it doesn't feel that way, but I hope she's right.

I feel this moving business must be a lot like announcing a pregnancy. I was so excited about moving but my husband told me not to tell people as nothing was certain. We kept our fingers crossed that everything would work out OK in the early stages, then we could reveal our exciting news. Now my eyes are red and puffy as I've been weeping over our bad luck. But it's not the end of the world, I keep telling myself. There are much more important things in life. This is NOTHING; just a minor hiccup. Right?

Now I'm off to do some spring cleaning in the hope that someone will want to view our home and buy it. The trouble is, I've already mentally detached myself from our flat and have fallen in love with a south facing living room with a Juliette balcony where I was planning on growing tomatoes and strawberries in hanging baskets... I need to fall back in love with my home so I can talk about it positively and sell it to someone. People say March is the best time to sell property... Let's see.

15 comments:

Kelley Anne said...

I think you mother is right...but I'm the same way as you are. I tend to get way ahead of myself and really fall in love with the idea of things, then get crushed when they don't work out as I'd hoped. Dan is always the one who says that its a minor hiccup or its not the end of the world to me:) And he's usually right. Someone will come along who really wants to buy your current home and eventually you'll find the perfect place to grow your strawberries and tomatoes and make a new home. The more I say these things, the more I believe them myself. I hope you feel better soon.

Helena - A Diary of Lovely said...

cheer up darling, your mum is absolutely right, everything happens for a reason. All the best, a good buyer will come soon,I'm sure! xx

anne said...

i'm sorry to hear this. we had a similar situation happen to us, but now that time has passed i'm glad. your mom is right, but sometimes in the present moment it's hard to think of the positives. in the future when looking back,it will all make sense. hang in there :D

jen said...

oh no, sorry! it must be really disappointing. but i really do believe things work out for the best, perhaps there is a good reason this fell through. someone will come along and love the place.

Kate said...

darling I totally understand where you are coming from, I mentally decorated a lovely little house that I still dream about, (and still see things and think oh yes that would have been great in the Shasta House...) but a delay from our mortgage person meant that our offer went in a day too late... I still drive by it to see what they've done to it... (here it is here http://www.flufflefritz.com/2009/05/house-hunting-is-emotional.html) but in the end it was out of our budget and my fiance got laid off about 1 month after we bought our current house and if we'd have bought the Shasta house, I think we would have been in mortgage hell... so in times like these go to the spa, get a massage, have a glass of wine, go dancing or whatever it is that makes you feel good and trust that everything will be alright!

MB said...

Hang in there! The same scenario happened to us about three years ago. The seller of the house we were going to buy decided to call off her wedding! We had already done a survey and everything! It was so disappointing! I had picked out lots of things and had the contractor around to see about knocking down some walls. BUT you know what... it worked out for the best. A couple weeks later we found a better house that was perfect for us. We look back and are so grateful we didn't end up with the first house. Even though it may not feel like it right now, this may be a blessing in disguise...

Kelley Anne said...

Thanks for the comment back Rebecca. You shouldn't feel stupid getting upset. Its really upsetting and I completely understand how you feel.

one sydney road said...

I'm so sorry to hear this. And don't feel silly or stupid getting upset...it's a hard thing to have to deal with. A friend of mine just went through the same thing...she was devastated. Just like you she had mentally moved out. But literally 2 weeks later they had another offer and that one went through. So hang in there...it'll happen. And now you know - trust your instincts. I'm sending you good thoughts!!

painted fish studio said...

oh, how maddening. and i'm so sure you are sick of reading this, but these things do happen for a reason. and you did learn that your gut instinct is spot-on.

something even better than what you were expecting will come out of this. it will!

Stephanie Sabbe said...

I'm so sorry rebecca! we went through that whole ordeal in the last city we lived in. If it makes you feel any better, we did sell our house, but we ended up losing $10,000 (between realtor fees and closing costs) Everything will work out!

Christina said...

I'm sorry. I hope everything works out in the end. I'm sure it will!

le @ whoopwhoop said...

oh wow this is horrid ... you are right to feel sadded by this ... home buying / selling is like the fourth most stressful event one can go thru ..

But this too shall pass ... chin up super tropper :) le

the real mia said...

Oh! So sorry to hear about those folks backing out.

abigail's treasure said...

ouch! you poor things! still I hope in some strange way it'll work out for the best in the end, you never know what new possibilities are next round the corner. in the meantime just let it all out, you'll feel better for it.

hope you find new buyers soon and that its worth t in the long run :)

Shannon of ** Happiness Is...** said...

Oh no Rebecca! So sorry to hear this. I know exactly how you feel. Not that I've had to sell my home before to move into another one. But I really tend to get my hopes up about things and my imagination runs wild with visions of the happy future. Then I get so extremely disappointed when it doesn't happened. I also learned the hard way about announcing things to blog land before things were a done deal. It's heart breaking. But everyone else is right...another opportunity will present itself and it will be the right on. Keep your spirits up...it will happen!! :) xo

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